Reader
There are times on your journey when you reach a point where you realize that the tools, methodologies, programs, and people who have helped you heal, grow, understand yourself, and make sense of your life have reached a point where there is a knowing they are no longer right for you.
And even though you still look for where you can receive the guidance so you can continue to keep moving on your path, what you experience instead is noticing how these ways are just no longer you.
And often, underneath that searching, the answer is: I know there is more, but I don't know how to go deeper and further with myself internally.
For those of you who have journeyed with me for a while, you may remember I have shared a little about this before.
Where there comes a point in this journey where the external tools, teachings, processes, and people that have been so important and valuable on your journey are no longer what is needed for the next stage.
And thank goodness they were in your life to help you reach this point.
Because they have done what they were there to do.
And now the next stage of your journey is calling you into something different. And you don't just think it, you know it deep within you.
My own journey started with a knowing. I was eighteen, and I knew I was not who I truly was.
I did not know who the true me was and I certainly had no idea what it would involve or what I would have to do.
I had an inkling of what I would have to face, release, understand, heal, reclaim, or become responsible for, but it was minuscule compared to the reality of it.
What was so important to me was that the knowing was rock solid and clear.
And from that knowing, I made a commitment that my purpose on this earth was to be me.
The true me.
Through my amazing mum, I was exposed to astrology, past life regression, the New Zealand Ashram, Yoga Nidra, and then, when I really needed help at twenty-one, meditation.
All of these processes felt right and they certainly did support me for a period of time.
They opened doors, gave me some insight, and supported me in moving along on my journey.
Until they didn’t.
Then I had a significant falling inward into all I had been suppressing, and I didn't know how to deal with it.
I felt like I had fallen apart, as you can feel.
So I got help from a qualified psychotherapist, and she helped for a while.
But after three months, it no longer had an effect on me. In fact I was getting frustrated. I now see how my original purpose and desire to be me, meant I journeyed some parts of my path fluidly.
She had taken me as far as she could.
All the tools, people, approaches, and places that had supported me to that point were no longer what I needed.
How did I know?
I knew internally. I now know my soul was guiding me, and the pure part of my human who was working with my soul.
They no longer had an impact.
They were simply no longer part of my journey.
I knew I had to journey inward and find the answers myself.
I knew I had to learn how to hear myself, understand myself, work with myself, and trust what was within me.
What I did not know then was that this was not only my personal journey.
It was also part of the soul expression I was here to share in this world.
In the early years, the people I walked beside were often in crisis. OMG I knew that process so well.
Something in their life had reached a point where change was not really negotiable anymore. They were being asked to face the parts of themselves that needed their attention, and life was not letting them avoid it.
That was the first version of IMAD.
Now, having walked so much further on my own path, my work is deeper, and further along the journey.
I know I'm more soul and human working together now than the hurt, conditioned Melinda who began this journey.
And in the last four months since Mum passed, that has become even clearer.
Damn Mum, I wish you were still here, and I also get why you are not.
I know why, where I am concerned.
While Mum was here, I consciously chose to carry responsibility for her. I would not put that down. I would not consciously release it. I would not stop caring at that level.
But once she left, I was released from the deepest thread of responsibility I had carried all my life.
And the personal journey I have been on since then would not have happened in the same way if she were still here.
So it is no surprise that the clients I work with now, are people who have reached a place in their own journey where what they have been doing for their healing, growth, understanding, or self-development is no longer right for where they are.
The tools, support, healing, awareness and external processes all were valuable and helped them. I love hearing their stories of what they gained from them.
Then they reached that point in their journey where they knew.
Their soul is calling them to something different.
They know there is more for them to journey.
They still have patterns, confusion, fear, doubt, shutdown, self-abandonment, shame and old ways of being that have a hold on them.
In many cases they still have support around them.
And they generally have done a lot of work.
But the tools, people, and approaches that brought them this far are no longer helping them move beyond where they are now.
And often, they do not know what will or who will, or even what it is they are looking for.
They just know something is not moving.
Something does not feel right, patterns keep repeating, there is frustration, and they find themselves questioning and even asking for more.
This is the point, where your journey becomes less about finding another answer outside of yourself and more about learning how to hear yourself, understand yourself, trust yourself, work with yourself, and walk with what your soul and human are asking of you.
That is the work I know.
Because that has been my life.
It began when I was eighteen and knew I was not yet who I truly was.
And it continues today.
It is where the two parts of you, your soul and your human self, no longer work against each other.
Instead, you are being called to let them work and walk together.
To face the truth, to become the tool, to know yourself at a deeper level, so you can work with yourself more easily and so your human trusts your soul again.
So maybe the questions for you are these:
🖤 What has helped and supported you this far, but may no longer be able to take you further?
🖤 Where do you keep looking outside yourself for something you may now need to learn to hear within yourself?
🖤 What keeps repeating, even though you have already done so much work?
🖤 What part of you knows there is more, even if you cannot yet fully recognize and understand what that more is?
And if this connects with where you are, and you know you’re looking for support to move through this next phase of your journey, this is the work I do.
I walk beside people as they learn to understand themselves more deeply, hear what their soul and human are asking of them, and participate in the journey of returning to the truth of who they are.
If you feel called to explore this with me, you can reply to this email.
Melinda xxx
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