Hey there Reader
I was sharing the other day with a group of people, how I don’t like labels, and how I don’t call myself a coach or one of the many other titles that are out there.
If someone really needs a label, I’ll say “guide,” because I understand that our human mind wants categories, our logic needs to make sense of what someone does, and our emotions lean on that logic so we can feel safe, because when we can name it we think we can predict it.
I get that, and I’m even willing to support people with this, especially if they ask, because the truth is I facilitate, I coach, I mentor, I guide, I use whatever is needed when I walk with someone through their journey home.
But this didn’t sit with the group I was speaking to.
They didn’t ask me questions to understand where I was coming from, what my intention was, or how I actually work with people.
They weren’t curious. Instead, they told me where I was at and what I should do. They judged, they dismissed, they corrected. They kept telling me about the “3D world” and why I needed to use their terms.
And in that moment, I realised what was really going on.
They wanted me to be digestible.
They wanted to be able to easily process who I am and what I do, so they could feel comfortable.
They wanted me to fit into their labels, their categories, their boxes, because then I would feel normal instead of natural, familiar instead of unknown, one of them instead of me, walking their path instead of my own.
And when they did this to me, not only did they want me to be digestible, they wanted me to be marketable and acceptable.
⚫️ As you read these words, what does that feel like to you?
⚫️ Is that what you want others to do to you?
I don’t. But in that moment, I allowed them to impact me.
At first I was shocked, and I went into a state of shock, hardly hearing what they were saying.
Why were they doing this to me? I hadn’t asked for it. What was going on?
Then I felt myself contracting, out of protection but also out of lack of confidence.
I turned inward, and realised I was being judged and made wrong for being me.
I started doubting myself, second-guessing, believing them instead of myself. I was collapsing into old patterns.
I could hardly speak because it was overwhelming, and for me, that says something.
I scanned for what I did wrong. I heard myself justifying at one point, and still I got shot down. I silenced parts of me.
And in that moment, I abandoned myself.
This was the pattern I went through — shock → contraction → self-doubt → justification → silence → self-abandonment.
I even put their beliefs ahead of my soul knowing and asked for help, which I later cancelled that same day, once I came through this.
But still, I had stopped standing in my truth so they could feel comfortable in theirs.
And that’s what being made digestible does.
It’s not about supporting you or understanding you.
It’s about reshaping you so someone else can feel safe. And the cost is yours.
But here’s the truth: you were never too much.
You were simply too much for their capacity.
When people can’t connect to your depth, they’ll try to reshape you so they can.
But that was never about your worth, it was always about their limits.
They want you to silence your truth and dim your light so it doesn’t highlight what they are not dealing with in themselves, where they are not speaking their truth or shining their light.
But you are not here to be invisible, or to be less visible than you are meant to be.
You are a leader, someone who is here to be a shining light for yourself first and for others.
You are here to be the example of what is possible, not what is comfortable.
To be the truth speaker, not the illusion conformer.
And yes, that is a big ask. But it is an ask you are up to, just like me.
And so much of our world is programmed to do this to us. To make us fit. To make us marketable, acceptable, predictable.
But your soul is stronger than that. You are not here to walk other people’s paths. You are here to create your own.
This is why I’m running a live, interactive 60-minute workshop soon called Stop Being Made Digestible. We’ll talk about what actually happens in these moments, why it hits so hard, and I’ll walk you through one way of meeting it differently, where you can ask questions and share if you choose to.
If this connects for you, hit reply with the word DIGESTIBLE and I’ll add you to the list for the workshop details as soon as they’re ready.
And here’s something to sit with until then:
🖤 Who are the people you notice yourself starting to shrink around, to make them comfortable?
🖤 How do you know they are not comfortable — what do they do that tells you this?
🖤 Why are you doing this?
Your truth is valuable, your difference is your brilliance, and you are here to create a new path.
Melinda xxx
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