Hi there Reader
Something I want to share with you…
This has been one of the most powerful and liberating shifts I’ve experienced in my very long journey, because of how deeply it connected me back to my truth. And I don’t say that lightly.
I am aware of a number of people who are experiencing elements of this right now, so I wanted to share it with you.
During your growth journey, there comes a time, and maybe you’re in it right now, where something shifts and changes, not just within you, but something deeply about you.
It can be so subtle you almost miss it, in fact you may not even fully notice it.
But you feel it within your being, and then you become aware that there is something different about you.
Where you’re no longer seeing yourself, others, and life through the lens you used to.
Who you've been, was the person that used to make excuses for people, who gave them the benefit of the doubt, who tried to understand their pain more than your own, who was always there for them, but now this version of you no longer needs to protect you, because there is a different part of you that is emerging, a part of you that is ready to lead.
You begin to see the patterns of interactions in your life where you have abandoned yourself.
And all that caring that you gave to others, well, you still care about them, but the shift is, you stop betraying yourself in order to care.
⚫️ You see the truth of what you’ve been doing, and what you have and have not been experiencing.
⚫️ You wake up to the relationships where the energy exchange is one way, from you to them, and not mutual.
⚫️ You see where, when you speak your truth, you’re asked if you’re getting upset, their way of deflecting their discomfort onto you.
⚫️ You notice how you stay silent and even make yourself less just so others wouldn’t feel insecure.
⚫️ The number of conversations where people don’t even hear you, don’t respond, change the subject, suddenly distract themselves, or even talk over you.
You start to see, hear, and feel things differently, and that difference is truth and clarity.
You’re finally seeing the patterns and what is going on, for what it is, and feeling it fully, without silencing yourself.
If you're like me, initially this may surface anger, even rage, and also hurt.
First at what others have been doing to you.
And then you realize the truth is, it’s what you’ve been doing to yourself.
The truth of what it says about how you see and feel about you, that you have accepted the scraps, allowed yourself to dim your light, dilute your voice and doubt yourself, let alone believe that others were more important than you.
Then the words that have surfaced from within me — for me — that draw the line: No More.
And you feel that power within you, filled with strength, care for yourself, and a deep valuing of who you are, rising and moving through you, filling your being.
🖤 No more explaining yourself to people who never really wanted to know you.
🖤 No more absorbing the impact of others’ discomfort, just so they don’t have to face it.
🖤 No more adapting who you are so they don’t feel confronted by your truth.
And NO MORE making yourself wrong for it.
🖤 No more feeling guilt, judging yourself, and believing you’re the problem.
🖤 No more doubting yourself and taking on board others’ issues and insecurities.
🖤 No more asking yourself, “Was I too much?”
🖤 No more thinking, “Maybe I should’ve said it differently.”
🖤No more fighting to be heard, to be important, to be cared about.
Instead, you embrace the truth, the power and freedom of it.
You're moving deeper within you, journeying closer to the natural and true you.
Where your truth is what guides you, and where you're whole and at peace with yourself.
This is when you no longer abandon yourself to keep the peace, your employment, relationships, and even to keep up appearances, this is when your life reorganizes around the truth of who you are.
Not the person you were, the one who carried the responsibility for everyone else.
Because interestingly, what happens in this space is that the relationships you’ve been keeping together, the ones where you’ve been the glue, the one who adjusts, the one who sees and takes responsibility for everything, they begin to shift too.
Some people, when you're no longer the one holding the whole thing, when you stop doing the emotional work, when you stop explaining and tiptoeing around the truth, some people grow.
They begin to truly look at themselves, and take responsibility for who they are and what they do. They feel the space that your truth opens, and they choose to grow.
And some don’t.
Some people drop off. They're not ready to go there, and they might never do so, because they aren’t willing to look at themselves.
And sometimes, you’re the one who quietly and firmly closes the door, not out of judgment or punishment, but because the part of you that kept the door open and stayed in those spaces, well they no longer lead.
Time to reflect on you, your truth, and your return home to you:
🖤 Where and what are you seeing, hearing, and feeling — that you’ve previously not wanted to, or not been ready to face?
🖤 Where are you starting to feel the truth underneath the stories you’ve been telling yourself, or the ones you’ve accepted from others?
🖤 What are the patterns in your interactions and relationships that you’re now seeing differently, and how are you beginning to respond in a way that’s more aligned with who you really are?
This identity, the person you have been, as beautiful, kind and generous that they are, the one who put others first, who made themselves acceptable, likeable and even loveable, the reliable you, who was there for others and who carried so much, they're tired. They've carried enough.
And the real you?
This powerful, aligned, in integrity, truth driven you — they're ready.
Melinda xxx
PS: If you know someone who needs to read this, feel free to forward it on. There’s a shift happening within so many right now, and what you’re feeling is real. You’re not alone in it.
What are some of the shifts or changes you’re going through? I’d love to hear, if and when it feels right to share.
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