Hi there Reader
I am curious, have you been feeling tired, exhausted, heavier, or slower lately?
Maybe even like you’ve gone backwards?
You feel something shifting inside you, but you can’t yet identify what it is.
You might have old feelings resurfacing and you don’t like it, and patterns you thought you’d already changed are occurring again.
And are there moments where you feel trapped, or even hopeless.
If you are feeling any or all of this, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going backwards.
For many people, this is actually a sign that something deeper is shifting, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.
What’s happening is that you are experiencing space right now.
Space for internal shifts to unfold, that you may not consciously recognise yet.
But the part of you that is used to labelling these moments as 'something is wrong', or 'I'm going backwards, because that’s what these feelings have meant to you in the past, will naturally try to interpret them in the same old way.
But this isn’t the past.
What’s actually happening is that the parts of you that have shifted in recent months need time to strengthen, to settle, and to anchor.
So your system pauses, so it can reorganise itself in a way that lets you hold the next stage of your growth without being pulled back into old patterns.
🖤 When you grow your relationship with yourself, and reconnect with the parts of you that you forgot, rejected, or didn’t know how to work with, the shift doesn’t begin, it deepens.
🖤 You can feel that you’re changing. You know why. You just don’t yet know what it’s reshaping you for.
🖤 You know you’re meant to do something different, but the calling hasn’t formed yet because you’re being taken through what you need to be steady enough to live it, without wobbling, without shrinking, and without slipping back into who you were before.
Last week I experienced a time of this. I was feeling flat, a bit hopeless, and honestly trapped. And what I saw was that I was fighting myself. I wanted to keep doing my emails, my posts, my work, but my system wasn’t operating in the part of me that could actually do that.
Even my knowing was silent. There was nothing. No insight, no guidance, nothing to connect to. And the wild thing is, that silence was the support. That was my soul giving me exactly what I needed, by not giving me anything at all.
So I stopped fighting. I said to myself, “I am not going near my business for the next three days. I’m going to be with my system and see what unfolds.” And it was quiet. Really quiet. Even the night I didn't get to sleep till 1am, there was just silence through my whole system.
But I knew, because my knowing did give me that much, that a lot was moving internally, but at a subtle level I’ve never experienced before.
I didn’t need to identify it, or interpret it. I trust my system to do what it needs to do.
And then this morning, boom. Even though I’m tired from a couple of days of physical work, I sat in my office and the insights and distinctions just started flowing again, and honestly, they’re fascinating.
And then a client this morning told me she was beating herself up for not being able to run this week because she’d sprained her ankle.
What she didn’t realise is that her body had made huge shifts physically over the last couple of weeks, and now this past week, she was shifting huge amounts emotionally, and if she’d been doing the physical, she wouldn’t have been able to make the emotional shift to the depth she has.
It was perfect. Her human and soul were working together, preparing her to eventually be able to hold both physical and emotional in the same week.
We’ve been conditioned to interpret this part of our process as something being wrong.
Things being slow and heavy.
The tiredness, and returning emotions.
The silence and pause we experience.
The moments that feel like you’ve gone backwards.
And depending on where you’re at in your own process, this might also be a time where you’re feeling more emotional than usual.
And this can be happening because your emotional system is releasing the layers it doesn’t need anymore. The tears, the irritation, the tenderness, the sensitivity, is your emotional body clearing what cannot come with you into the next stage of who you are.
If this is the phase you’re in, it’s not regression, it’s the reorganising that has to happen so the next layer of who you are can actually emerge and integrate.
It can feel like regression because the sensations are familiar, but the process underneath is completely different.
For example, ponder on those moments where you’ve had a realization about yourself, something you’ve probably heard before, something you’ve even agreed with, but it only truly made sense on the day you were ready for it.
You might have heard the words a dozen times, but they didn’t land until your system had cleared enough, softened enough, or strengthened enough to actually receive them. And suddenly, what felt vague or repetitive before becomes obvious, embodied, and deeply true.
That’s not because the insight changed.
It’s because you did.
Your system won’t let you skip this part.
It won’t let you build new clarity on top of old scaffolding - old ways of being.
I see this often, people think they’re stuck, when what’s actually happening is their system is steadying the changes that have already happened so they don’t fall back into old patterns.
🔷 Your system also won’t let you drag emotional responsibilities from the past into a future you’re not meant to repeat.
🔷 It just won’t.
🔷 So when that heaviness comes, or the slowing, or the silence, or the old feelings flare, it’s not wrong, you're not being punished.
🔷 It’s the clearing that has to happen so the emerging part of you doesn’t crumble under the weight of what you used to carry.
And as frustrating as it can feel, this space, this heavy, unproductive-feeling space, is a very important part of your evolution.
Because this is where the reset happens.
This is where the emotional body dissolves old residue.
This is where your knowing recalibrates.
This is where your system strengthens what has shifted.
This is where your calling starts to surface, even if you can’t yet identify it.
So if you’re in this phase right now, I want you to know this:
And if you’re in this phase, you’re not losing momentum or slipping backwards. You’re being reconfigured and realigned.
It only feels like backwards because this part of the process has the same sensations as falling apart, but it isn’t.
Something to explore for yourself:
🖤 What part of you is interpreting this process as something being wrong?
🖤 What emotions are resurfacing that may actually be a deeper layer releasing?
🖤 What if you surrendered to the possibility that your system is doing exactly what it needs to right now?
When you understand this part of the journey, you experience something different.
You don't fight yourself, you flow with what is going on within you.
You stop judging this part of the process and yourself.
You let go panicking when your knowing is quiet.
You trust the deeper process, the one you can feel but can’t yet articulate.
You trust your soul and knowing, as well as your human, and that trust is what moves you to the next stage of your journey.
With truth,
Melinda xxx
PS: You might be interested in checking out my Substack — and my podcast episode on why the tools no longer work.
Copyright © 2025 Globally Make a Difference Ltd, All rights reserved.
I Make a Difference | U Make a Difference
