Hey there Reader,
I have had a few conversations with people lately about the tools that they have been using for their growth.
In fact, I had a young lady who is very connected to her soul share with me that she had tried Emotional Frequency Tapping (EFT), meditation, breath work, and other processes, and had given them all up.
She recognised that they were soothing her but not addressing the areas under what she was experiencing.
That they created dependency, and that she could see a life of only ever using them.
She didn’t want that.
That is why she was working with me, she wanted tools that would help her to really work with the emotions, patterns, and conditioning that were diluting her connection to who she truly is, and taking up space where her soul could be instead.
She said to me, “People talk, some have shared these tools, but I know there are other tools, and I want them.”
I love a driven young person who is so wise.
Before I go any further, I want to clarify, these external tools, the ones that come from outside of you, are vitally important for many.
Because sometimes the overwhelm and the pain you feel are so much that you need the soothing, the relief. And they definitely provide this.
They are there to support you while you’re not yet in a place within yourself to work with tools from the inside, with you.
But there comes a point in your journey where that starts to shift.
You realise you don’t actually want to feel better anymore.
You want to get real.
This is what my client was saying to me, in her own words.
The tools you’ve used have helped, they’ve softened the edges, they’ve given you moments of relief. They will have even shifted some things for you.
But at some point, you start to notice that the ease doesn't last and requires you using the tools often.
You feel calm for a while, and then the ache returns.
And what you begin to see is that you don’t want to just feel better.
You want to go deeper than soothing or easing what you’re experiencing, only to have it surface again, and find yourself going through the same process, again and again, without the real shift.
Being real isn’t about regulating your system.
It’s about facing the truth of what is within you, the parts that hurt, resist, grieve, long, and protect, and learning to work with them internally.
Because no external process can touch what you can touch when you finally connect with yourself and work with you.
No tool or teacher can go as deep as your own truth.
🖤 Being real feels raw at first.
🖤 It’s not comfortable.
🖤 But it’s steady.
🖤 It’s facing the truth of what is there and it's clean.
🖤 It’s the place where healing finally becomes real.
And it does require understanding what you’re working with, the different parts of you, how they operate, and what they’re trying to protect, so you can identify what you’re experiencing and know how to work with it, rather than against it.
Reflection for You
Before you go, take a quiet moment to feel into this:
🖤 Where in your life are you still reaching for something outside of you to feel okay, instead of connecting to and working with what’s within?
🖤 What part of you is ready to go deeper in exploring what’s real within you?
This is what the I Make a Difference journey, where soul and human reunite, is all about.
You having the map and connecting to the tools within you to navigate the journey home to you.
It’s about getting really real.
And the second-generation program begins in January 2026.
I’ve created a 5-day reflection series called Is It Safe To Be All Of Me.
Each day, you’ll receive a short audio note and written reflection that helps you:
🖤 recognise the moments you silenced your truth,
🖤 see how those patterns still shape your life today, and
🖤 begin reconnecting to the parts of you that were never meant to be dimmed.
And because this isn’t just about reading, it’s about experiencing, you’ll also have the opportunity to reply to each day’s reflection and share what surfaced for you.
If you send your reflections within 10 days of signing up,
I’ll personally respond with a short reflection or guiding question to help you see what’s opening more clearly.
If that speaks to you, click below to join the journey.
🖤 Is It Safe To Be All Of Me
When you click, you’ll be taken to a confirmation page letting you know you’re in, and your first reflection will arrive soon after.
Each day guides you to meet one truth within you, and to recognise what happens when you stop hiding from yourself.
Because when you do, you don’t just feel better, you become more real.
Melinda xxx
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