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Dear Reader

Some of you may be feeling exhausted. Not just tired in your body, but soul weary. From being the one who is there for others every day. The one who is caring, who is supporting others emotionally, in every space you are in — and yet no one sees you, and no one really feels you.

You feel a lot and give a lot. In time, attention, care, energy and empathy, and yet, when it is your turn to be supported, to be seen, to be heard, to be cared about, it's like no one is there.

You are not looking for someone to process things for you. You already know how to do that. You don't need someone to fix it for you, you can work that through. That's not what you're after.

You just want someone who can actually sit with what you are feeling and be with you in it. Who can understand the depth, the pain, the tiredness and the experience you have been through, without trying to change it or turn it into something else.

But what you are met with are people who want to tell you what to do. How you can fix it. What strategies you can use. People who, essentially, want you to snap out of it. They mean well, but they don't see what you are crying out for, they don't feel it and certainly don't get it.

I know, when you're the one who always holds it together for everyone else, the one who senses what is really going on, the one who is always there and gives fully to others — it is like others do not know how to do that for you.

They either avoid you when you are raw, or they make you wrong and get defensive. They end up making it about themselves and taking it away from you. They also tell you what you should be doing instead of just saying, I see and hear you. And when that happens, what you're already feeling just builds, pain upon pain.

But it's not actually about you. It's about what your truth and rawness surface in them. Your emotions stir up what they have not been feeling or dealing with in themselves. Your clarity exposes what they have been avoiding. And instead of facing that, they try to fix it, silence it, or turn it back on you, because that's easier than sitting in what is real and dealing with their own feelings and truth.

So you stop sharing, or you share less. You say, I’m good, when you are not, because what is the point. You soften it so they do not shut down. You say nothing, even when the pain inside you is screaming.

I know what it's like to experience that. I know what it's like to feel the silence, the sadness and the pain, to be crying out inside — I just want you to be with me.

I also know what it is like to keep showing up for yourself over and over again, and then for others, because that's who you are.

So today is simply about honoring what is real in what you experience.

It's about letting yourself feel the ache and the weight of what you have carried, as a good, kind, caring, considerate, empathetic human. A deeply truth driven, sensory, soul led human who is often walking through this world alone, without receiving what they give.

I want you to know you are not alone. Even when it feels like you are. Even when no one checks in. Even when no one knows what you carry, or feels what you feel, or sees who you truly are.

I get it. I know the pain. I'm here. And there are many like us.

This prompt is for those of you who have always been there for others, and for yourself, and who now, even if just for a moment, need someone to be there for you. To hear you out, to understand what you're feeling, and to not try to fix you, diminish you, or make you wrong for it.

Here are your invitations to explore:

🖤 Where in your life right now do you feel the most unseen, unsupported or alone, and what would it look like for someone to actually be with you in that?

🖤 What do you do and carry that no one recognizes or acknowledges, and what does that do to you?

🖤 What do you fear would happen if someone truly knew what you are holding — not just on the surface, but all of it?

🖤 Where have you softened, silenced or reshaped your truth because others could not face it?

🖤 What part of you is still waiting for someone to say, I see you. I feel you. I understand you. I am here?

You deserve to experience empathy. You deserve to be supported and cared about as much as you share your care. You deserve to be seen and understood. And I want you to know you're not selfish and you're not too much for wanting this.

And if you need someone who can see you in it, without fixing you, I am here. You can reply. Or if you want to share anonymously, you can do that too. Because what you are experiencing, you do not deserve to go through on your own. You deserve to be heard and seen.

With care,

Melinda

P.S. If you are in this space and you know it is time to speak what is real for you, I have opened a few spaces for 30 minute sessions — a space to explore what is surfacing, together. Just click here.​

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